Safety

How to Verify Someone You Met Online (Step by Step)

A practical, step-by-step checklist to verify that someone you met on a dating site is who they say they are.

A few minutes of checking can save you a lot of heartache. Here is a simple process to confirm your match is real.

1. Check for a verified badge

Most major dating sites offer photo or ID verification. A badge doesn’t guarantee good intentions, but it confirms the photos match the person.

  1. Save or screenshot one of their photos.
  2. Upload it to Google Lens (images.google.com) or TinEye.
  3. Check whether the same photo appears under a different name.

3. Video call

A short video call confirms identity better than anything else. Real people agree to it; scammers make excuses.

4. Search their details

Search their first name with their city, workplace or university. Check whether their social media accounts look genuine and established.

5. Watch for red flags

Pressure to move off the site, stories about money, or refusal to meet are all warning signs. Read our 12 warning signs of romance scams.

6. Plan a safe first meeting

Meet in public, tell a friend, and arrange your own transport. More ideas in our first date guide.

Frequently asked questions

Is it okay to look someone up before a date?

Yes. Basic checks using public information are a sensible safety step, as long as you respect their privacy.

Swoonwise Editorial Team

Dating site reviewers. Every guide is fact-checked and updated regularly. Editorial policy.