Best for: Women who want more control
- Less unwanted messaging for women
- Relationship-minded user base
- Strong verification and safety features
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $15/mo
Comparison
Both are built for communities that mainstream apps often overlook. Hiki is for autistic, ADHD and other neurodivergent adults; Dateability is for disabled and chronically ill people.
Quick verdict
It depends on what you want. Choose Hiki if you are neurodivergent and want friendship and dating signals kept separate. Choose Dateability if you are disabled or chronically ill and want disclosure on your own terms.
| Feature | Hiki | Dateability |
|---|---|---|
| Our rating | 3.8 / 5 | 3.7 / 5 |
| Best for | Neurodivergent adults looking for friends or a partner | People with disabilities or chronic illness |
| Audience | 18+, autistic, ADHD and other neurodivergent people, worldwide | 18+, disabled and chronically ill people and allies |
| Typical goal | Friendship, dating and community | Dating and relationships |
| Free version | Yes | Yes |
| Paid from | price shown in the app | ≈ $5/mo |
| Platforms | iOS, Android | iOS, Android |
| Community | Neurodivergent adults | Disabled and chronically ill people |
| Friendship | Separate smile for friendship | Friendship welcome |
| Free core features | Yes | Yes — swipes, likes, matches, messages |
Hiki
Dateability
Hiki Premium: price shown in the app; Dateability paid plans start at ≈ $5/mo. Prices vary by country and plan length — see Hiki pricing and Dateability pricing.
Best for: Women who want more control
Best for: Finding a relationship in your 20s and 30s
Yes — many people who are both neurodivergent and disabled or chronically ill use both.
Both are free to use, with optional paid extras.