Best for: Meeting lots of people fast
- Huge, active user base almost everywhere
- Free version lets you match and chat
- Very fast and easy to use
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $10/mo
Comparison
Lex vs HER: Which Is Better? (2026)
Both serve queer women and non-binary people. HER is a profile-and-swipe app with communities; Lex is text-first, built around written personals.
Quick verdict
It depends on what you want. Choose Lex if you prefer words to photos and want a mostly free app. Choose HER if you want a bigger app with profiles, swiping and events.
Side-by-side comparison
| Feature | Lex | HER |
|---|---|---|
| Our rating | 3.7 / 5 | 4.1 / 5 |
| Best for | Queer, trans and non-binary people who prefer words to photos | LGBTQ+ women and queer people |
| Audience | 18+, LGBTQ+ (strong with queer women, trans and non-binary people) | 18–40, LGBTQ+ women, non-binary and queer people |
| Typical goal | Dating, friendship and community | Dating, relationships and community |
| Free version | Yes | Yes |
| Paid from | ≈ $10/mo | ≈ $15/mo |
| Platforms | iOS, Android | iOS, Android |
| Format | Text personals | Profiles and swiping |
| Price | Mostly free, monthly limits | Free, with Premium |
| Community | Posts and feeds | Feeds, groups and events |
Scores
Lex
- Match quality
- 3.4
- Features
- 3.6
- Value for money
- 4.4
- Safety
- 4.0
- Ease of use
- 3.8
HER
- Match quality
- 3.9
- Features
- 4.1
- Value for money
- 3.9
- Safety
- 4.1
- Ease of use
- 4.2
Lex: pros and cons
Pros
- Built for queer and trans people
- Personality over photos
- Mostly free
- Friendship and community too
Cons
- Monthly limits on free posts
- Smaller local pools
- Not for photo-first daters
HER: pros and cons
Pros
- Safe, focused community
- Free matching and messaging
- Community and events beyond dating
Cons
- Smaller outside big cities
- Premium is pricey for what it adds
Pricing compared
Lex paid plans start at ≈ $10/mo; HER paid plans start at ≈ $15/mo. Prices vary by country and plan length — see Lex pricing and HER pricing.
Neither feels right? Consider these
Best for: Women who want more control
- Less unwanted messaging for women
- Relationship-minded user base
- Strong verification and safety features
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $15/mo
Frequently asked questions
Is Lex better than HER?
They suit different styles: Lex for writing-led connection, HER for a larger profile-based community.
Can I use both?
Yes — many queer women and non-binary people use both.