Best for: Meeting lots of people fast
- Huge, active user base almost everywhere
- Free version lets you match and chat
- Very fast and easy to use
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $9.99 (US App Store)
Comparison
Lex vs HER: Which Is Better? (2026)
Both serve queer women and non-binary people. HER is built around profiles and matching, with communities; Lex is a social feed where you find friends and dates through what you write.
Quick verdict
It depends on what you want. Choose Lex if you want community first and like meeting people through words. Choose HER if you want a bigger app with profiles, swiping and events.
Side-by-side comparison
| Feature | Lex | HER |
|---|---|---|
| Our rating | 3.7 / 5 | 4.1 / 5 |
| Best for | LGBTQ+ people who want community and friends as well as dates | LGBTQ+ women and queer people |
| Audience | 18+, LGBTQ+ (strong with queer women, trans and non-binary people) | 18+, lesbian, bi and queer women, trans and non-binary people; mostly 18–40 |
| Typical goal | Friendship, community and dating | Dating, relationships and community |
| Free version | Yes | Yes |
| Paid from | ≈ $3.99 (US App Store) | ≈ $14.99 (US App Store) |
| Platforms | iOS, Android | iOS, Android |
| Format | Feed, groups, events and written posts | Profiles and swiping |
| Price | Free, with a limit on posts | Free, with Premium |
| Community | Feeds, groups and events | Feeds, groups and events |
Scores
Lex
- Match quality
- 3.4
- Features
- 3.6
- Value for money
- 4.4
- Safety
- 4.0
- Ease of use
- 3.8
HER
- Match quality
- 3.9
- Features
- 4.1
- Value for money
- 3.9
- Safety
- 4.1
- Ease of use
- 4.2
Lex: pros and cons
Pros
- Built for LGBTQ+ people, with zero tolerance for transphobia
- Personality over swiping
- Free to read, post and message
- Friends and community as well as dates
Cons
- Limit on free posts
- Quiet local feeds outside big cities
- Contains ads
- Help pages don’t explain paid plans
HER: pros and cons
Pros
- Focused LGBTQ+ community
- Free matching and messaging
- Communities beyond dating
- You can message from a profile
Cons
- Smaller outside big cities
- Identity filters need Premium
- Matches expire after three days without a message
- App only, with no web version
Pricing compared
Lex paid plans start at ≈ $3.99 (US App Store); HER paid plans start at ≈ $14.99 (US App Store). Prices vary by country and plan length — see Lex pricing and HER pricing.
Neither feels right? Consider these
Best for: A big, well-moderated swipe app
- Big pool, with 100M+ Google Play downloads
- Photo verification required in the US
- Free in-app voice and video calls
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $2.99 for Boost (US App Store)
Frequently asked questions
Is Lex better than HER?
They suit different styles: Lex for writing-led connection, HER for a larger profile-based community.
Can I use both?
Yes — many queer women and non-binary people use both.