HER · Alternatives
HER isn’t for everyone. Here are the best dating sites to try instead, depending on what you want.
HER is built for queer women and non-binary people, and if it’s bringing you dates or friends, keep it. People look for apps like HER when the pool near them is small, when they want to filter by identity without paying, or when matches keep expiring before anyone writes.
Hinge is the strongest choice for a relationship. It’s free to match and message, and its profiles include sexuality and gender. Bumble is big in many cities; see HER vs Bumble. Tinder has the largest pool, and you can show your orientation.
Taimi covers the whole LGBTQ+ community. See HER vs Taimi. Lex is a text-first community, where you read what people write rather than swipe on photos. See Lex vs HER.
Mainstream apps can suit you better, since you can see all genders in one place. Our bisexual dating sites ranking goes through the options.
HER welcomes trans people, and our transgender dating sites ranking covers others built with that experience in mind.
HER’s Communities work well for this. Our friendship apps ranking lists more, and the LGBTQ+ dating sites ranking compares the whole field.
| Site | Rating | Best for | Free version | Paid from | Link |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Hinge | Finding a relationship in your 20s and 30s | Yes | ≈ $16.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Lex | LGBTQ+ people who want community and friends as well as dates | Yes | ≈ $3.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Taimi | LGBTQ+ singles of every identity | Yes | ≈ $5.99/mo (Taimi’s own comparison) | Visit | |
| Bumble | A big, well-moderated swipe app | Yes | ≈ $2.99 for Boost (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Tinder | Meeting lots of people fast | Yes | ≈ $9.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Badoo | Meeting people nearby on a budget | Yes | ≈ $13.99/week for Premium (US) | Visit | |
| Grindr | Gay and bi men meeting people nearby | Yes | ≈ $14.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Plenty of Fish | Free messaging and searching a big pool yourself | Yes | ≈ $19.99 (US App Store) | Visit |
Best for: Finding a relationship in your 20s and 30s
Best for: LGBTQ+ people who want community and friends as well as dates
Best for: LGBTQ+ singles of every identity
Best for: A big, well-moderated swipe app
Best for: Meeting lots of people fast
Best for: Meeting people nearby on a budget
Best for: Gay and bi men meeting people nearby
Best for: Free messaging and searching a big pool yourself
Hinge is our top HER alternative for most people. The best choice depends on your goals.
Yes — see our best free dating sites and apps.