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Best for: LGBTQ+ women and queer people
- Focused LGBTQ+ community
- Free matching and messaging
- Communities beyond dating
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $14.99 (US App Store)
Lex · Alternatives
Apps Like Lex for Queer Dates and Community
Lex isn’t for everyone. Here are the best dating sites to try instead, depending on what you want.
When to look at Lex alternatives
Lex is about community first, and if your local feed is lively, there may be no reason to leave. People look at apps like Lex when few members post near them, when they want matches rather than a feed, or when they’d like to see someone before they write.
If you want a bigger queer dating app
HER is built for queer women and non-binary people, with profiles and matching as well as community. See Lex vs HER. Taimi covers the whole LGBTQ+ spectrum, with a social feed beside its dating side.
If you like reading before you talk
OkCupid asks plenty of questions and lets you say a lot about your identity, so it’s probably the closest big-app match for people who like words.
If you want a serious relationship
Hinge builds profiles around prompts, it’s free to match and message, and it has plenty of LGBTQ+ users in many cities.
If you just want the most people
Tinder has the largest pool, along with orientation and gender settings, though you’ll need to filter carefully.
If you’re looking for friends
Many people keep Lex for this, because it’s free and it’s what the app does best. Our friendship apps ranking lists other options, and our transgender dating sites ranking compares apps for trans and non-binary people.
Comparison table
| Site | Rating | Best for | Free version | Paid from | Link |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| HER | LGBTQ+ women and queer people | Yes | ≈ $14.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Taimi | LGBTQ+ singles of every identity | Yes | ≈ $5.99/mo (Taimi’s own comparison) | Visit | |
| OkCupid | Matching on values and answers as well as photos | Yes | ≈ $10/mo | Visit | |
| Hinge | Finding a relationship in your 20s and 30s | Yes | ≈ $16.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Tinder | Meeting lots of people fast | Yes | ≈ $9.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Bumble | A big, well-moderated swipe app | Yes | ≈ $2.99 for Boost (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Grindr | Gay and bi men meeting people nearby | Yes | ≈ $14.99 (US App Store) | Visit | |
| Stitch | Over-50s who want company and activities, not just dates | Yes | ≈ $7/mo | Visit |
The best alternatives
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Best for: LGBTQ+ singles of every identity
- Built for all LGBTQ+ identities
- Dating and friendship in one app
- Free matching and chat
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $5.99/mo (Taimi’s own comparison)
3
Best for: Matching on values and answers as well as photos
- Match percentage based on real answers
- Free messaging with matches
- Over 60 gender and orientation options, plus pronouns
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $10/mo
4
Best for: Finding a relationship in your 20s and 30s
- Detailed, conversation-friendly profiles
- Strong focus on real relationships
- Free version is usable, with free faith and ethnicity filters
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $16.99 (US App Store)
5
Best for: Meeting lots of people fast
- Huge, active user base almost everywhere
- Free version lets you match and chat
- Very fast and easy to use
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $9.99 (US App Store)
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Best for: A big, well-moderated swipe app
- Big pool, with 100M+ Google Play downloads
- Photo verification required in the US
- Free in-app voice and video calls
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $2.99 for Boost (US App Store)
7
Best for: Gay and bi men meeting people nearby
- Biggest community of gay and bi men
- Free messaging with no need to match
- Works almost everywhere
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $14.99 (US App Store)
8
Best for: Over-50s who want company and activities, not just dates
- Friendship and dating in one
- Real-world events
- All members must verify before messaging
- Free version
- Yes
- Paid from
- ≈ $7/mo
Frequently asked questions
What is the best alternative to Lex?
HER is our top Lex alternative for most people. The best choice depends on your goals.
Is there a free alternative to Lex?
Yes — see our best free dating sites and apps.